I always thought about young mums, like, ‘Put a bloody condom on’, you know? ‘You know the consequences of having sex’. Then I got myself pregnant so I can’t really have that judgment anymore. I still think about that now. Like, I don’t want anyone to go through the struggling stages of being a young mum.
They always ask me, ‘Would you go back and change things if you could?’ and I’m like, ‘Nah, I wouldn’t but I’m telling you now, you can always wait’. I would never recommend it.
I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant. I was so scared. I just cried for ages. They said, ‘You’re too far ahead to have an abortion’, and I was just, ‘I don’t wanna have this baby’. And now I’m like, ‘Far, how did I even think like that?’ I’m just so glad I was six months at the time cause otherwise I would’ve. It’s sad to think about. Things happen for a reason, and obviously I was meant to be six months pregnant.
The young mums I know, they don’t do as much as me but they’re more into their kids. They do anything for their kids. I don’t really have time to do all that stuff with Taimana. It’s kind of different. They’re taking it slowly whereas I’m in a rush to finish my studies. I wanna do it now and not later. They’re just going with the flow. That’s cool, they’re just being there for their kids.
I just wanted to go to university and I thought I had to go back to school to do all that sort of stuff. I just wanted to prove something. I wanted to prove that even though I had a baby I could still do it.
I’ve heard from other young mums that they look up to me cause I’m able to motivate myself and they can’t do it and I say, ‘You can do it, you just have to put your mind to it’.
Being a mum has changed the way I look at life. I don’t take life for granted. Just take one step at a time.